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Thanksgiving Tradition Continues

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On the eve of Thanksgiving, in the face of some awful winter weather, chefs from the city’s finest hotels and restaurants gathered at the Dunlevy Milbank Center to prepare a fantastic Thanksgiving feast for more than 1,000 Harlem residents—including many families participants in our Early Childhood and School Age programs. For 24 years, the Food and Beverage Association of America has generously organized and hosted this holiday dinner. A huge team of volunteers cooked an estimated 250 twenty pound turkeys with all the trimmings. The Food and Beverage Association members, their colleagues, and friends donated all the food, decorations, and table settings for the dinner, and served food to attendees.

This year’s Thanksgiving event was made even more special by the Harlem Globe Trotters, who played some one-on-one with Early Childhood participants and thrilled the audience with tricks. The entertainment continued throughout the evening as a DJ treated diners to music during their meal. Dessert time meant dancing in addition to the many sweets available. Further supplementing the spirit of giving, Milbank staff and the association raffled off an additional 125 cooked turkeys to families and individuals for their own Thanksgiving celebrations.

Thank you to the Food and Beverage Association for its generosity and to all the volunteers for making this a joyous event for the families we serve.

November is Adoption Awareness Month

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By a proclamation signed by Governor Andrew Cuomo, November is officially Adoption Awareness Month in New York. Governor Cuomo has declared that New York will join the rest of the nation and use November to highlight the need for young people in the child welfare system to find forever families. The proclamation notes that 2,900 children in care in New York will need adoptive placements this year, and more than 1,000 of them are awaiting placements in adoptive homes. New York’s theme for the 2014 Adoption Awareness campaign is “Promoting and Supporting Sibling Connections,” which focuses on the importance of preserving sibling bonds by placing siblings together in adoptive homes whenever possible.

For years, The Children’s Aid Society has met and exceeded our goals for completing adoptions of children and youth needing Forever Families. Last year Children’s Aid worked to finalize the adoption of 100 children. Most of Children’s Aid’s foster children are adopted by their foster parents, when that’s not possible the adoption unit works to find families for the children who need an adoptive resource. Currently adoption unit staff are working to match five children in need of an adoptive resource with families looking to open their home and hearts to waiting children. If you are interested in exploring adoption, or hearing more about our waiting children call the agency adoption unit at 718-764-2406. For more information and to find out more about New York State’s waiting children explore the New York State Adoption Album.

Operation Warm with BNY Mellon

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As we approach the coldest months of the year, we are reminded that not every family can afford a new winter coat. Operation Warm was started in 2002  with this in mind—and a goal to see that our neediest children are outfitted with coats to protect them from the harsh winter elements.

On Wednesday, November 5, 25 volunteers from BNY Mellon visited our Dunlevy Milbank Center in Harlem to deliver warm coats to hundreds of our kids. Every child had his or her own “personal shopper”—a volunteer from BNY Mellon-- to help find that perfect coat.

Thank you to Operation Warm and BNY Mellon for continuing the annual tradition of keeping a child warm in the winter.

From the Associates Council: Last Call for a Roman Holiday!

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Over the past few weeks, the Associates Council has been hard at work prepping for our fall fundraiser, Roman Holiday, on Wednesday, November 12, at 7:00p.m. This is a perfect event to kick off the holiday season.  We’ve secured a fantastic venue at Bread & Tulips in Gramercy and worked with chefs to curate a delicious, rustic Italian-themed menu. There will also be raffle prizes available, including a gorgeous “Porto Rotondo” Audrey bag.

While it will be great to connect with friends, we’re really excited to gather together for a good cause and support The Children’s Aid Society’s foster care program. As you may know, Children’s Aid supports more than 500 foster care children   each year. To help support this important initiative, proceeds from ticket sales will directly benefit this program.

If this is your first time attending an Associates Council event, you’re in for a treat! The Associates Council is a group of dynamic young professionals committed to using our talents to improve our community. Every event we execute has a purpose, and we need your help to make our last event of the year a success.

Event and raffle tickets are still available for purchase here. If you can’t attend, donations of any amount are accepted and greatly appreciated. To stay current on Associates Council events, follow us on Facebook and Twitter (follow the hashtag #CASRomanHoliday for event updates).

Hope to see you there!

Event Details:

Date:  Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Time:  7:00 PM - 10:00 PM

Location:  Bread & Tulips (365 Park Avenue South between 26th and 27th Streets)

Purchase tickets here.

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Foster Fridays: Meet Bendu Konneh

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Some people have a natural instinct to think of others. Bendu Konneh is one of those people.

“I wanted to help,” said Bendu, when presented with the idea of becoming a foster parent. “It’s good to help people. Someday, I might need help.”

She had already raised her own daughter, but Bendu was involved with an organization that provides services for women from Africa living in the Bronx. She learned about becoming a foster parent and the organization referred her to Children’s Aid.

Bendu, a home health worker, brought a young woman and her infant son into her home in 2013. She gave the woman, now 19, her bedroom and instead slept in the living room. First and foremost, Bendu wanted to make sure the woman and her child, now two years old, felt at home. They have family dinners together, and Bendu brings the mother and son to other family events. She also wanted to make sure the young mother would finish high school to better provide for her family. She’s now in 11th grade and on the path to a degree.

Bendu is getting much from being a foster parent. And there are hundreds more children who could use the kind of home and support that Bendu is offering. Read more to learn about becoming a foster parent.

From the Associates Council: Escape with Audrey!

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Ciao de Roma! It’s that time of year…when we celebrate the Associates Council of The Children’s Aid Society with the 18th annual fall festa, “Roman Holiday.” Like Princess Ann, you can escape the mundane day-to-day in exchange for an evening of charming camaraderie, delicious aperitivos and antipasti, and the opportunity to raise awareness for Children’s Aid foster care programs.

All of our fundraisers feature a spectacular raffle, and this year is no exception. Check out just a few of our amazing prizes this year:

Princess Ann Raffle Tickets
(Tickets: 1 for $30)

An exclusive chance to get a VERY special prize... The "Porto Rotondo" Audrey bag in black, is the perfect bag for the fashionista in you. This chic bag, featuring Audrey Hepburn, comes in cotton canvas with black vacchetta handles and trim. Measures 18" x 10" x 6.75"



Joe Bradley Raffle Tickets
(Tickets: 1 for $10; 3 for $25; 10 for $75)

To name just a few...

Relaxation, rejuvenation, and renewal are just a raffle ticket away. Everyone can use a little pampering  so try your luck at winning a signature facial or massage from Red Door Spa.

Or enjoy Date Night! Taste the signature wood oven pizza by famed pizzaillo Federico Crociani along with the delicious small plates, meat and cheese boards, or tasty gastropub inspired fare from Carroll Place in Greenwich Village when you win this gift certificate!

There is, of course, much more…so join us at Bread & Tulips (located at 365 Park Avenue South) on Wednesday, November 12, at 7:00 p.m. to win these fabulous prizes, all in support of the foster care programs of Children’s Aid. Tickets are available on-line and at the event. If you can't attend you can still buy raffle tickets and win!

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Halloween with Victor Cruz

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On Saturday, October 25, more than a dozen students from our Hope Leadership Academy in Manhattan were invited to attend the Victor Cruz Foundation's "Halloweenland," an interactive Halloween experience focused on sports and science education. They had an opportunity to play catch with  Victor Cruz and his New York Giants teammates Mark Herzlich and Julian Talley,  shoot hoops with New York Knick J.R. Smith, and test their goal-scoring skills at soccer and New York Rangers hockey stations. They also learned about the science of sound with Sean Combs's Revolt TV. The kids also had a chance to try their hand at spooky movie makeup and pumpkin painting, and to participate in a costume contest.

Thank you to Time Warner Cable and the Victor Cruz Foundation for making this event possible for our kids.

A Delivery of Costumes to the Dunlevy Milbank Center

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Costume company BuyCostumes recently arrived in New York after traveling all the way from Wisconsin as part of a charity tour. Along the way they visited various organizations and groups, donating costumes to populations in need to ensure that everyone enjoys Halloween in style.    

As part of their final stop in New York, they visited Children’s Aid’s Dunlevy Milbank Center yesterday. A large group of BuyCostumes staff members dressed up and handed over boxes of costumes to nearly 50 youth from our Early Childhood programs. After accepting the gifts, some of the kids had the opportunity to try the costumes on, excited over their new trick-or-treat attire.

Thank you to BuyCostumes for making Halloween a memorable and fun-filled event for our youth!

Happy Halloween!

From the Associates Council: Roman Holiday

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In the busy season of New York holiday parties, friends, and food, the Associates Council of The Children’s Aid Society will host its 18th Annual Fall Fundraiser, Roman Holiday (yes, Audrey Hepburn style!), on Wednesday, November 12, from 7-10 p.m. at Bread & Tulips, a charming Italian restaurant in Gramercy on Park Avenue South.  Guests will enjoy tasty Italian fare and a selected, complimentary bar sponsored by Tito’s Handmade Vodka, with beer from Southampton and Weihenstephan breweries, and wine from Tiziano. Proceeds from the fall event will benefit The Children’s Aid Society’s foster care program.

Recently, the Associates Council had the privilege to hear Michael Wagner, the director of permanency at Children’s Aid, speak about the variety of services within the foster care program, and how they affect the thousands of children who go through the system each year.  Our support will not only strengthen these programs financially, but it also will increase awareness about the importance and reach of the Children’s Aid foster care program. At this time of year as we give thanks, we remember the children and families in need. We hope you can join us to support this necessary program—every dollar does make a difference!

For more information and tickets, please visit: Hope to see you there!

Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Part II

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As Domestic Violence Awareness Month continues, we would like to remind you of the ways in which the young people we work with are affected by domestic violence. The statistics we presented in our last posting demonstrated the wide-reaching impact of domestic violence. These next facts focus on teens:

  • 1 in 10 teenagers in New York City schools reports experiencing physical or sexual violence in a dating relationship within the past year
  • 1 in 3 teens reports experiencing some kind of abuse in their romantic relationships, including verbal and emotional abuse
  • Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence—almost triple the national average

We all know adolescence can be a difficult time, and we recognize the importance of supporting young people as they work through this stage of development. As young people push boundaries, separate from caregivers, and establish independent identities, these developmental tasks can create additional risk factors for experiencing intimate partner violence. We also know that adolescence covers a wide age range, and it is important to note the research suggesting that tweens (11-14 years old) are not only dating but are also experiencing abuse by dating partners.

So what can we all do to help?

  1. Identify when a teen is experiencing dating violence. Use our screening tool to guide your conversation with the young person. Or better yet, contact the Family Wellness Program for assistance in incorporating regular screening into your work with all teens.
  2. Know the warning signs. Teens who are being abused by a dating partner or witnessing domestic violence at home will often exhibit behavioral changes. If you notice a teen has suddenly become withdrawn or isolated, is struggling with school, or is acting out in aggressive ways, take a moment to check in with that young person about the relationships in her/his life.
  3. Start the conversation. Teens are receiving all sorts of messages about what dating and relationships should look like. Be proactive and start a conversation about healthy dating and positive relationship values. Or contact Julia Kirchhoff ( to schedule a workshop with our Teens Against Relationship Abuse (TARA) initiative.
  4. Be ready with resources.
    1. Family Wellness Program, TARA initiative (212) 503-6842
    2. Day One,, (212) 566-8120
    3. Break the Cycle,
    4. Teen Dating Violence Hotline, (866) 331-9474,